NARM

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

Viktor. E. Frankl

The Neuroaffective Relational Model (NARM) is a psychotherapeutic and process-oriented method specifically designed to treat attachment, relational, and developmental trauma. The approach integrates a resource-oriented model that focuses on experiences in the here and now.

This developmental, neuroscientifacly-based approach has emerged from psychotherapeutic orientations such as psychodynamic psychotherapy, Attachment theory, Gestalt therapy, character styles and somatic approaches. NARM works relational in the present moment within the context of interpersonal neurobiology. This approach is resource-oriented, non-regressive, non-cathartic, and ultimately non-pathologizing.

NARM assumes that although biography is important, it is not what happened in the past that causes the symptoms people experience as adults. It is the persistence of survival strategies, that were once appropriate, that distort current experiences and cause symptoms. These survival strategies have lost their usefulness and lead to a constant disconnection from our authentic selves and from others.

For example, dissociation and isolation are the primary coping mechanisms for dealing with early trauma. Dissociation and isolation have literally saved people’s lives, but when these mechanisms continue into adulthood, they cause ongoing symptoms.

It is the distortion of identity that develops in response to adaptation to early trauma and causes ongoing suffering.
An example: when children grow up with unloving parents, they are unable to recognize that this is their parents’ failure. Children always experience the failure of their environment as their own failure and develop the feeling that they themselves are unlovable.

A core element of the NARM  model is working with the unconscious need of the child, and later the adult, to protect the attachment and love relationship. By dissociating from developmental needs and emotions, the image of the caregiver is protected at the expense of one’s own positive self-image.

This has profound implications at the psychobiological, physiological, and identity levels.

The clinical NARM model provides precise and effective techniques for working with the core issues of identity distortion and physiological dysregulation, as well as a new, coherent theory for working with affects and emotions that aims to support their psychobiological completion.

Within the NARM approach, we work simultaneously with the psychology and physiology of people who have experienced developmental trauma, focusing on the interplay between identity issues and the capacity for connection and regulation.

“Connection, our deepest desire and greatest fear”
— Laurence Heller, NARM founder

NARM offerings


Individual sessions or supervisions

Individual sessions and supervision are a required part of the training curriculum to become a certified NARM-practitioner.

Both can be scheduled in my online planner below. First time we meet? Then I’d appreciate an email before booking a session.


Group supervision

Group supervision provides space to internalise the principles of the model and differentiate the subtleties of guidance within the framework of NARM. The supervision sessions are primarily used to discuss cases, but there is also the opportunity to clarify fundamental questions about methodology and application…


Active Coaching

Active group coaching offers the opportunity to refine your work with NARM as a therapist and to gain a deeper understanding of the model. My coaching focuses on getting to know and strengthening your own authentic way of working with NARM within the framework of the four pillars…


NARM trainings

As a NARM teacher, I offer several trainings internationally. NARM intro’s, deepenings, NARM-informed professional training and NARM Therapist training. I’m also open for special request topics…

Contact me

Thank you for your interest in my work!

Please contact me if you want to inquire into my work as a therapist and supervisor, or if you have questions regarding upcoming trainings.

I currently have very limited spaces for individual therapies.

Please note that I do not keep a waiting list.

(NARM) Supervisions are possible depending on the request and my time availabilities.